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For Marriage in The Elder Scrolls Online, see Ritual of Mara.

Marriage is a gameplay element in The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. After obtaining the Amulet of Mara, the Dragonborn has the option to engage in marriage with an eligible NPC regardless of either party's gender in the potential marriage.[1] Although there is no discrimination based on race, there are currently no eligible Khajiit, Bosmer, male Redguard, or male Altmer. Those that can be married generally require that a specific task be completed beforehand. Whether the partner is a merchant or not, they are able to purchase and sell general goods, also allowing the Dragonborn to collect a daily portion of his/her profits from their "work". Every 24 hours, the Dragonborn can ask their spouse how business is faring to receive a share of 100 gold. If the share is not collected, the gold accumulates.

Marrying

Obtaining the Amulet of Mara

Proposing

Maramal must be asked about marriage in Skyrim before any dialogue related to the Amulet of Mara shows up. The new dialogue is unlocked with certain NPCs if the Dragonborn is both wearing the amulet and has met the requirement relating to the individual, usually a quest. The Dragonborn can then express their wish to marry the person. Once that is done, they can speak to Maramal at the Temple of Mara about arranging the wedding.

Wedding Ceremony

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A wedding ceremony taking place.

The ceremony will start no sooner than approximately 24 hours. Maramal alludes to the ceremony time being constrained between dawn and dusk; however, the ceremony can happen at any given hour of the day. During the ceremony the Dragonborn has one last chance to affirm the marriage before the ceremony proceeds.

NPCs for whom quests have previously been completed may appear at the wedding ceremony as guests. If the Dragonborn already owns any houses, then the corresponding housecarl(s) will also be present. In the case of a few potential spouses, NPCs who are important to that character may appear as well.

If the Dragonborn misses their wedding ceremony, they can approach the intended partner and ask for another chance. Maramal will then agree to host another ceremony, the next day.

Married life

Once the marriage ceremony is complete and the Dragonborn addresses their new spouse, the spouse will inquire where the Dragonborn wants to live. If the spouse owns property, that will be presented as an option; the Dragonborn may also select any of the houses they currently own. The selection need not be permanent; relocation to any of the available homes is available at any time by initiating the appropriate dialogue with the spouse.

If the spouse is the Dragonborn's housecarl, "their house" is the applicable house of the Dragonborn that they are responsible for.

The behavior of the spouse changes from the single character once married. The tone of voice and behavior changes, and they will often refer to the Dragonborn as "love" or "dear" from that point on. However, if the Dragonborn marries one of his/her housecarls, the Dragonborn will still be referred to as their Thane using subordinate dialogue.

It should also be noted that only followers get unique voiceovers for the married dialogue. Many, if not all, NPC-only marriage candidates share a common voice, with the same lines. For females, it seems that Ysolda's voice is used for marital dialogue, regardless of the original voice. Even some Followers, such as Jordis the Sword-Maiden, seem to share the voice lines.

If the Dragonborn's spouse relocates to a different city from where they originated, to live in one of the Dragonborn's houses, the spouse may indicate that she/he wishes to become a shop owner to keep occupied while the Dragonborn is adventuring.

Once a day, the Dragonborn can ask their spouse to cook something. The spouse will make a homemade meal which increases the regeneration of Magicka, Health, and Stamina.

If the Dragonborn sleeps in the house with the spouse, the Dragonborn will receive a temporary bonus called Lover's Comfort that boosts the rate of skill-learning by 15% for 8 hours. However, this bonus cannot be obtained if the Lover Stone is activated (a workaround can be used with the Aetherial Crown), or if the Blood Ritual has been taken to become a Werewolf.

If the Official Plug-in The Elder Scrolls V: Hearthfire is available, marriage can also include children. The Dragonborn's adopted child will also be adopted by the spouse, as well as instantly move into the house where the Dragonborn's new son or daughter is living. This adds another dialogue option with the spouse allowing the Dragonborn to ask how the children are; it also adds generic dialogue to the child where an activity will be mentioned that they both did together.

  • Note: Because spouses act as vendors, the Dragonborn can buy and sell items from them. However, if the spouse is asked to follow the Dragonborn, the spouse will only sell items from his/her inventory until they part ways. Spouses only act as merchants in the marital home, meaning items cannot be sold to them while they are following (to reduce the carry weight, for instance).

Potential spouses

Females

Wife Race Occupation Location Requirements
Aela the Huntress NordCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Aeri NordLumberjackAnga's Mill, The Pale.Chopping firewood for her.
Anwen RedguardPriestTemple of Dibella, MarkarthCompletion of The Heart of Dibella
Avrusa Sarethi DunmerFarmerSarethi Farm, The Rift.Collect 20 Jazbay Grapes for her.
Borgakh the Steel Heart OrcWarriorMor Khazgur, Haafingar.Paying her dowry or convincing her to leave her home.
Brelyna Maryon DunmerStudentCollege of Winterhold, Winterhold.Completion of Brelyna's Practice.
Camilla Valerius ImperialMerchantRiverwood Trader, Riverwood.Completion of The Golden Claw.
Dravynea the Stoneweaver DunmerMageKynesgrove, Eastmarch.Providing her with one Frost Salt.
Ghorza gra Bagol OrcBlacksmithBlacksmith Shed, Markarth.Providing her with The Last Scabbard of Akrash.
Gilfre ImperialMillerMixwater Mill, Eastmarch.Working for her by chopping firewood.
Hilund NordWarriorBujold's Retreat / Thirsk Mead HallComplete Retaking Thirsk and collect 50 Riekling Spears for her.
Iona NordHousecarlHoneyside, Riften.Becoming Thane of the Rift.
Jenassa DunmerHirelingThe Drunken Huntsman, Whiterun.Hiring her.
Jordis the Sword-Maiden NordHousecarlProudspire Manor, Solitude.Becoming Thane of Solitude.
Lydia NordHousecarlWhiterunBecome Thane in Whiterun after killing Mirmulnir during Dragon Rising. Breezehome must be purchased for marriage option. (Not available for marriage before 1.5 update).
Mjoll the Lioness NordAdventurerRiften.Retrieving her sword Grimsever from the Dwemer ruins of Mzinchaleft.
Morwen NordSkaalSkaal Village.Freeing the Skaal, after delivering her mother's amulet to Runil in Falkreath
Muiri BretonAlchemistThe Hag's Cure, Markarth.Completion of Mourning Never Comes. NOTE: Both targets must be killed to gain Muiri's affection.
Njada Stone ArmNordCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of the Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
OrlaNordPriestTemple Of Dibella, MarkarthCompletion of The Heart of Dibella
Rayya RedguardHousecarlFalkreath, Lakeview ManorBecome Thane of Falkreath and buy Lakeview Manor Deed
Ria ImperialCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Senna BretonPriestTemple of Dibella, MarkarthCompletion of The Heart of Dibella
Shahvee ArgonianDockworkerArgonian Assemblage, Windhelm.Recovering her lost Amulet of Zenithar and returning it to her. She may be killed in the quest Blood on the Ice, so it is recommended that she be married before starting this quest.
Sylgja NordMinerShor's Stone, The Rift.Her satchel must be delivered to her father in Darkwater Crossing, then returned to her.
Taarie High ElfMerchantSolitudeCompletion of the miscellaneous quest Fit for a Jarl; the Dragonborn must also have the Investor perk on the Speech tree and must invest in Radiant Raiment.
Temba Wide-ArmNordMillerIvarstead, The Rift.10 bear pelts must be given to her.
Uthgerd the Unbroken NordHireling The Bannered Mare, Whiterun.She must be bested in a brawl battle.
Viola Giordano ImperialBusybodyCandlehearth Hall, Windhelm.Revyn Sadri's favor must be started, but he must be ratted out to Viola.
Ysolda NordMerchantOpen market, Whiterun.
She must be given a Mammoth Tusk.

Males

Husband Race Occupation Location Requirements
Ainethach BretonMine OwnerKarthwasten, the Reach.Convince Silver-Blood Thugs to leave his mine.
Angrenor Once-HonoredNordBeggarCandlehearth Hall, Windhelm.He must be given a gold piece.
Argis the Bulwark NordHousecarlVlindrel Hall, Markarth.Becoming Thane of Markarth.
Athis DunmerCompanionJorrvaskr Living Quarters, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Balimund NordBlacksmithThe Scorched Hammer, Riften.Must be given 10 Fire Salts.
Belrand NordHirelingThe Winking Skeever, Solitude.Must be hired.
Benor NordWarriorMorthal.Winning a brawl against him.
Calder NordHousecarlHjerim, Windhelm.Becoming Thane of Eastmarch.
Cosnach BretonDrunk/PorterSilver-Blood Inn, Markarth.Must be challenged to a brawl and bested.
Derkeethus ArgonianFishermanDarkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.Must be rescued.
Farkas NordCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Filnjar NordBlacksmithShor's Stone, The Rift.Completion of the Quest Mine or Yours.
Gat gro-ShargakhOrcMinerLeft Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach.Completion of the favor to Pavo Attius to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.
Ghorbash the Iron Hand OrcWarriorBurguk's Longhouse, Dushnikh Yal, The Reach.Pay his dowry or convince him to leave.
Marcurio ImperialHirelingBee and Barb, Riften.Hiring him.
Halbarn Iron-Fur DB NordBlacksmithBujold's Retreat / Thirsk Mead HallComplete Retaking Thirsk and Halbarn's Supplies.
Moth gro-BagolOrcBlacksmithUnderstone Keep, Markarth.Bring him a Daedra Heart.
Octieve San BretonCitizenSolitude. Frequently found in and around the Winking Skeever.Convincing the gamblers to let him off his debts.
Omluag BretonMinerMarkarth Smelter, Markarth.Talk to Mulush gro-Shugurz in Markarth about the smelter workers.
Odfel NordMinerShor's Stone.
Onmund NordStudentThe Hall of Attainment, College of Winterhold.Recover his Amulet from Enthir
Pavo Attius ImperialMinerLeft Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach.Completion of his favor to liberate Kolskeggre Mine.
Perth BretonMinerSoljund's Sinkhole, The Reach.Clearing Soljund's Sinkhole of Draugr.
Quintus Navale ImperialAlchemistThe White Phial, Windhelm.Completion of the Quest Repairing the Phial.
Revyn Sadri DunmerMerchantSadri's Used Wares, Windhelm.Bringing back stolen ring to Viola Giordano
Roggi Knot-BeardNordMinerSteamscorch Mine, Kynesgrove, Eastmarch.Recover his Family Shield
Romlyn Dreth DunmerMeadery WorkerBlack,Briar Meadery, Riften.Deliver Black-Briar Mead Keg to Wilhelm in Ivarstead.
Scouts-Many-MarshesArgonianDockworkerArgonian Assemblage in Windhelm.Talking to Torbjorn Shatter-Shield about the Argonian dock workers.
Sondas Drenim DunmerMinerGoldenrock Mine, Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.Delivering his note to Quintus Navale
Sorex Vinius ImperialAssistant InnkeeperWinking Skeever, Solitude.Delivering kegs of Stros M'Kai Rum to Falk Firebeard at the Blue Palace.
Stenvar NordHirelingCandlehearth Hall, Windhelm.Hiring him.
Torvar NordCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Vilkas NordCompanionJorrvaskr, Whiterun.Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.
Vorstag NordHirelingSilver-Blood Inn Markarth.Hiring him.
Wilhelm NordInnkeeperVilemyr Inn, Ivarstead, The Rift.Completion of the investigation of Shroud Hearth Barrow.

Forcing marriage  PC  

The marriage dialog option can be forced to appear on NPCs by opening the console, targeting the desired NPC, and typing the command "addfac 19809 1". This could possibly cause issues with NPCs who were not originally intended to have this option.

A friendship must have been started with the NPC in the form of a quest, as their disposition (which is a hidden stat) needs to be of a certain level in order for them to recognize the Amulet of Mara. Alternatively the command "setrelationshiprank player 4" can be used after adding the person to the marriage faction. It is not possible to marry several of the people in the game, such as Ulfric Stormcloak.

Divorce  PC  

Trying to breakup with partners is impossible without the console commands. Searching for help "breakup" 4 will bring up dialogue and quests that show reference to what most likely was the original intention of breaking up with a spouse.

Option one

The relationshipbreakup quest can be used.  PC   Use the console to enter these commands:

  • completequest 0007431B
  • resetquest 0007431B
  • resetquest 00021382

(This is just formality to reset the "marriage" quest.) The above will prevent the Dragonborn from having to kill their spouse, although they will comment on how much even the thought of them makes their blood boil. Untested, but possibly setrelationshiprank player 4 can fix this.

Option two

  • The spouse must be killed
  • The console command Setstage RelationshipMarriage 10 must then be used
  • The console commands resurrect should next be used on the ex-spouse (and eventually the command setrelationshiprank player 4 on him/her to keep the relationship status obtained with the NPC related quests)
  • The old Amulet of Mara doesn't need to be dropped or sold.

Option three

  • The Amulet of Mara necklace must be retained, or another one must be found.
  • Any wanted items should be taken from the current spouse before starting this process.
  • The following commands must be used, after targeting the spouse:
    • removefac 51596
    • player.removefac C6472
    • resetquest 74793
    • resetquest 21382
    • setstage 74793 10
  • The old spouse will immediately exit the house and return to their regular location.
  • 24 hours must be waited.

Trivia

  •  PC   To change the clothes of the partner, the console command equipitem can be used on him (e.g. equipitem 000d191f 1 for the Tavern Clothes). The console command removeitem <base_id> 1 can be used to remove items like a Pickaxe (000E3C16), or clothes specifically. Be mindful that all NPCs (including followers) come with a set of standard clothing that are tagged as their 'outfit'. Even when removing these clothes through the console, the NPC will try to put on the standard outfit when not following the Dragonborn, which can result in them being randomly nude while not following the Dragonborn (e.g: waiting at their house, walking in the city).
  • The Dragonborn can also change their spouse's clothes on consoles if they are a follower by equipping them with items of better armor value and buying their normally-worn items in their shops; however, when not following they might be nude.
  • The Dragonborn can kill their spouse by sacrificing them to Boethiah during the quest Boethiah's Calling.
  • If a spouse is killed, remarriage is not possible without the use of console commands.
  • There are a number of potential marriage options cut from the game that still have related data included (but disabled) in the game files. Among those characters who were cut are Vivienne Onis, Ingun Black-Briar, and Elisif the Fair.
  • The Dunmer of Raven Rock cannot be married via console commands. The Nords of Skaal Village can be married this way, but are bugged (and thus may not leave Solstheim).
  • Serana has the option of proposal but will kindly refuse.

Bugs

This section contains bugs related to Marriage. Before adding a bug to this list, consider the following:

  1. Confirm all bugs with other editors on the talk page before adding them below.
  2. Always try reloading an old save first, before asking for assistance.
  3. Do not discuss possible bug fixes or origins. Leave those and all other first-person-anecdotes on the talk page, not the article.
  4. Always add  360  ,  PS3  , and  PC   to clarify which system the bug appears on.
  • Sometimes, the wedding ceremony won't actually start; the Dragonborn's spouse, guests, and Maramal are at the temple at the proper time, but the ceremony proper will not happen. Guests offer their generic congratulations, and the spouse expresses excitement, but nothing else happens and the quest will fail after a few in-game hours.
  • Sometimes, Maramal will not show up at the temple until he is talked to at the Bee and Barb.
  • If a follower (such as Lydia) dies before the wedding, their dead body will be present at the wedding.
  • A bug can occur in which a scripted NPC interrupts the wedding if the Dragonborn chooses to wait overnight in the Temple of Mara. For example: the priestess of Azura might make the Dragonborn miss his wedding if he recently completed the The Black Star.
  • Some people that can be married, such as Aela the Huntress, have no voice recorded for when they are asked to show their merchandise. The subtitle will appear on screen and their lips still move but nothing will be heard.
  • When married to Camilla Valerius, Sven will still ask the Dragonborn to break up the relationship between Camilla and Feandal (in the quest A Lovely Letter). The Dragonborn can still complete the quest despite being married to her.
  • If Aela the Huntress is taken to Riften to get married while on the quest to recover any Hircine totem, she will continue to normally follow the Dragonborn, but will disappear upon fast traveling.
  • If a random Companions quest is accepted and the quest requires killing a monster that has invaded a home, that home may be the Dragonborn's. Upon entering the home no one will be there but the monster and the spouse will temporarily disappear from the game.
  •  PS3   Sleeping in the same house with the partner may not result in the "Lover's Comfort" buff, only the standard "Well Rested" bonus.
  • With the Dragonborn DLC, the Dragonborn's spouse may never appear at the designated house, but wander around his/her default location instead.
    • This can be fixed by making the spouse a follower before leaving the hold and leaving them in the Dragonborn's home, then making them a follower again and ask them about living somewhere else. Upon leaving them there, they will live there as normal.
    •  PC   Another solution is to divorce the spouse and remarry.
  •  PC   360   During the marriage ceremony, after the spouse gives their vows, they will sometimes randomly leave the temple while Maramal is still talking, and will disappear, not to be found anywhere.
    • This can be avoided by quickly leaving the ceremony and initiating conversation with the spouse about where to live.
    • In rare cases, the wedding will not occur on the actual day, but the day after. The spouse will still say what they normally say (e.g. "It's our wedding day! I feel like the whole of Skyrim is focused on the two of us.").

Achievements

Married (Achievement)
Married
Get married
Points 10 Game points
Trophy
Bronze trophy

References

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