Marriage is a gameplay element in The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim. After obtaining the Amulet of Mara, the Dragonborn has the option to engage in marriage with an eligible NPC regardless of either party's gender in the potential marriage. Although there is no discrimination based on race, there are currently no eligible Khajiit, Bosmer, male Redguard, or male Altmer. Those that can be married generally require that a specific task be completed beforehand. Whether the partner is a merchant or not, they are able to purchase and sell general goods, also allowing the Dragonborn to collect a daily portion of his/her profits from their "work". Every 24 hours, the Dragonborn can ask their spouse how business is faring to receive a share of 100 gold. If the share is not collected, the gold accumulates.
Maramal must be asked about marriage in Skyrim before any dialogue related to the Amulet of Mara shows up. The new dialogue is unlocked with certain NPCs if the Dragonborn is both wearing the amulet and has met the requirement relating to the individual, usually a quest. The Dragonborn can then express their wish to marry the person. Once that is done, they can speak to Maramal at the Temple of Mara about arranging the wedding.
The ceremony will start no sooner than approximately 24 hours. Maramal alludes to the ceremony time being constrained between dawn and dusk; however, the ceremony can happen at any given hour of the day. During the ceremony the Dragonborn has one last chance to affirm the marriage before the ceremony proceeds.
NPCs for whom quests have previously been completed may appear at the wedding ceremony as guests. If the Dragonborn already owns any houses, then the corresponding housecarl(s) will also be present. In the case of a few potential spouses, NPCs who are important to that character may appear as well.
If the Dragonborn misses their wedding ceremony, they can approach the intended partner and ask for another chance. Maramal will then agree to host another ceremony, the next day.
Once the marriage ceremony is complete and the Dragonborn addresses their new spouse, the spouse will inquire where the Dragonborn wants to live. If the spouse owns property, that will be presented as an option; the Dragonborn may also select any of the houses they currently own. The selection need not be permanent; relocation to any of the available homes is available at any time by initiating the appropriate dialogue with the spouse.
If the spouse is the Dragonborn's housecarl, "their house" is the applicable house of the Dragonborn that they are responsible for.
The behavior of the spouse changes from the single character once married. The tone of voice and behavior changes, and they will often refer to the Dragonborn as "love" or "dear" from that point on. However, if the Dragonborn marries one of his housecarls, the Dragonborn will still be referred to as their Thane using subordinate dialogue.
It should also be noted that only followers get unique voiceovers for the married dialogue. Many, if not all, NPC-only marriage candidates share a common voice, with the same lines. For females, it seems that Ysolda's voice is used for marital dialogue, regardless of the original voice. Even some Followers, such as Jordis the Sword-Maiden, seem to share the voice lines.
If the Dragonborn's spouse relocates to a different city from where they originated, to live in one of the Dragonborn's houses, the spouse may indicate that she/he wishes to become a shop owner to keep occupied while the Dragonborn is adventuring.
Once a day, the Dragonborn can ask their spouse to cook something. The spouse will make a homemade meal which increases the regeneration of Magicka, Health, and Stamina.
If the Dragonborn sleeps in the house with the spouse, the Dragonborn will receive a temporary bonus called Lover's Comfort that boosts the rate of skill-learning by 15% for 8 hours. However, this bonus cannot be obtained if the Lover Stone is activated (a workaround can be used with the Aetherial Crown), or if the Blood Ritual has been taken to become a Werewolf.
If the Official Plug-in The Elder Scrolls V: Hearthfire is available, marriage can also include children. The Dragonborn's adopted child will also be adopted by the spouse, as well as instantly move into the house where the Dragonborn's new son or daughter is living. This adds another dialogue option with the spouse allowing the Dragonborn to ask how the children are; it also adds generic dialogue to the child where an activity will be mentioned that they both did together.
|Aela the Huntress||Nord||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Aeri||Nord||Lumberjack||Anga's Mill, The Pale.||Chopping firewood for her.|
|Anwen||Redguard||Priest||Temple of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of The Heart of Dibella|
|Avrusa Sarethi||Dunmer||Farmer||Sarethi Farm, The Rift.||Collect 20 Jazbay Grapes for her.|
|Borgakh the Steel Heart||Orc||Warrior||Mor Khazgur, Haafingar.||Paying her dowry or convincing her to leave her home.|
|Brelyna Maryon||Dunmer||Student||College of Winterhold, Winterhold.||Completion of Brelyna's Practice.|
|Camilla Valerius||Imperial||Merchant||Riverwood Trader, Riverwood.||Completion of The Golden Claw.|
|Dravynea the Stoneweaver||Dunmer||Mage||Kynesgrove, Eastmarch.||Providing her with one Frost Salt.|
|Ghorza gra Bagol||Orc||Blacksmith||Blacksmith Shed, Markarth.||Providing her with The Last Scabbard of Akrash.|
|Gilfre||Imperial||Miller||Mixwater Mill, Eastmarch.||Working for her by chopping firewood.|
|Hilund||Nord||Warrior||Bujold's Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall||Complete Retaking Thirsk and collect 50 Riekling Spears for her.|
|Iona||Nord||Housecarl||Honeyside, Riften.||Becoming Thane of the Rift.|
|Jenassa||Dunmer||Hireling||The Drunken Huntsman, Whiterun.||Hiring her.|
|Jordis the Sword-Maiden||Nord||Housecarl||Proudspire Manor, Solitude.||Becoming Thane of Solitude.|
|Lydia||Nord||Housecarl||Whiterun||Become Thane in Whiterun after killing Mirmulnir during Dragon Rising. Breezehome must be purchased for marriage option. (Not available for marriage before 1.5 update).|
|Mjoll the Lioness||Nord||Adventurer||Riften.||Retrieving her sword Grimsever from the Dwemer ruins of Mzinchaleft.|
|Morwen||Nord||Skaal||Skaal Village.||Freeing the Skaal, after delivering her mother's amulet to Runil in Falkreath.|
|Muiri||Breton||Alchemist||The Hag's Cure, Markarth.||Completion of Mourning Never Comes. NOTE: Both targets must be killed to gain Muiri's affection.|
|Njada Stone Arm||Nord||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of the Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Orla||Nord||Priest||Temple Of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of The Heart of Dibella|
|Rayya||Redguard||Housecarl||Falkreath, Lakeview Manor||Become Thane of Falkreath and buy Lakeview Manor Deed|
|Ria||Imperial||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Senna||Breton||Priest||Temple of Dibella, Markarth||Completion of The Heart of Dibella|
|Shahvee||Argonian||Dockworker||Argonian Assemblage, Windhelm.||Recovering her lost Amulet of Zenithar and returning it to her. She may be killed in the quest Blood on the Ice, so it is recommended that she be married before starting this quest.|
|Sylgja||Nord||Miner||Shor's Stone, The Rift.||Her satchel must be delivered to her father in Darkwater Crossing, then returned to her.|
|Taarie||High Elf||Merchant||Solitude||Completion of the miscellaneous quest Fit for a Jarl; the Dragonborn must also have the Investor perk on the Speech tree and must invest in Radiant Raiment.|
|Temba Wide-Arm||Nord||Miller||Ivarstead, The Rift.||10 bear pelts must be given to her.|
|Uthgerd the Unbroken||Nord||Hireling||The Bannered Mare, Whiterun.||She must be bested in a brawl battle.|
|Viola Giordano||Imperial||Busybody||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm.||Revyn Sadri's favor must be started, but he must be ratted out to Viola.|
|Ysolda||Nord||Merchant||Open market, Whiterun.||
|Ainethach||Breton||Mine Owner||Karthwasten, the Reach.||Convince Silver-Blood Thugs to leave his mine.|
|Angrenor Once-Honored||Nord||Beggar||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm.||He must be given a gold piece.|
|Argis the Bulwark||Nord||Housecarl||Vlindrel Hall, Markarth.||Becoming Thane of Markarth.|
|Athis||Dunmer||Companion||Jorrvaskr Living Quarters, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Balimund||Nord||Blacksmith||The Scorched Hammer, Riften.||Must be given 10 Fire Salts.|
|Belrand||Nord||Hireling||The Winking Skeever, Solitude.||Must be hired.|
|Benor||Nord||Warrior||Morthal.||Winning a brawl against him.|
|Calder||Nord||Housecarl||Hjerim, Windhelm.||Becoming Thane of Eastmarch.|
|Cosnach||Breton||Drunk/Porter||Silver-Blood Inn, Markarth.||Must be challenged to a brawl and bested.|
|Derkeethus||Argonian||Fisherman||Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.||Must be rescued.|
|Farkas||Nord||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Filnjar||Nord||Blacksmith||Shor's Stone, The Rift.||Completion of the Quest Mine or Yours.|
|Gat gro-Shargakh||Orc||Miner||Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach.||Completion of the favor to Pavo Attius to liberate Kolskeggr Mine.|
|Ghorbash the Iron Hand||Orc||Warrior||Burguk's Longhouse, Dushnikh Yal, The Reach.||Pay his dowry or convince him to leave.|
|Marcurio||Imperial||Hireling||Bee and Barb, Riften.||Hiring him.|
|Halbarn Iron-Fur DB||Nord||Blacksmith||Bujold's Retreat / Thirsk Mead Hall||Complete Retaking Thirsk and Halbarn's Supplies.|
|Moth gro-Bagol||Orc||Blacksmith||Understone Keep, Markarth.||Bring him a Daedra Heart.|
|Octieve San||Breton||Citizen||Solitude. Frequently found in and around the Winking Skeever.||Convincing the gamblers to let him off his debts.|
|Omluag||Breton||Miner||Markarth Smelter, Markarth.||Talk to Mulush gro-Shugurz in Markarth about the smelter workers.|
|Onmund||Nord||Student||The Hall of Attainment, College of Winterhold.||Recover his Amulet from Enthir|
|Pavo Attius||Imperial||Miner||Left Hand Mine / Kolskeggr Mine, The Reach.||Completion of his favor to liberate Kolskeggre Mine.|
|Perth||Breton||Miner||Soljund's Sinkhole, The Reach.||Clearing Soljund's Sinkhole of Draugr.|
|Quintus Navale||Imperial||Alchemist||The White Phial, Windhelm.||Completion of the Quest Repairing the Phial.|
|Revyn Sadri||Dunmer||Merchant||Sadri's Used Wares, Windhelm.||Bringing back stolen ring to Viola Giordano|
|Roggi Knot-Beard||Nord||Miner||Steamscorch Mine, Kynesgrove, Eastmarch.||Recover his Family Shield|
|Romlyn Dreth||Dunmer||Meadery Worker||Black,Briar Meadery, Riften.||Deliver Black-Briar Mead Keg to Wilhelm in Ivarstead.|
|Scouts-Many-Marshes||Argonian||Dockworker||Argonian Assemblage in Windhelm.||Talking to Torbjorn Shatter-Shield about the Argonian dock workers.|
|Sondas Drenim||Dunmer||Miner||Goldenrock Mine, Darkwater Crossing, Eastmarch.||Delivering his note to Quintus Navale|
|Sorex Vinius||Imperial||Assistant Innkeeper||Winking Skeever, Solitude.||Delivering kegs of Stros M'Kai Rum to Falk Firebeard at the Blue Palace.|
|Stenvar||Nord||Hireling||Candlehearth Hall, Windhelm.||Hiring him.|
|Torvar||Nord||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Vilkas||Nord||Companion||Jorrvaskr, Whiterun.||Completion of The Companions' story arc with Glory of the Dead.|
|Vorstag||Nord||Hireling||Silver-Blood Inn Markarth.||Hiring him.|
|Wilhelm||Nord||Innkeeper||Vilemyr Inn, Ivarstead, The Rift.||Completion of the investigation of Shroud Hearth Barrow.|
The marriage dialog option can be forced to appear on NPCs by opening the console, targeting the desired NPC, and typing the command "addfac 19809 1". This could possibly cause issues with NPCs who were not originally intended to have this option.
A friendship must have been started with the NPC in the form of a quest, as their disposition (which is a hidden stat) needs to be of a certain level in order for them to recognize the Amulet of Mara. Alternatively the command "setrelationshiprank player 4" can be used after adding the person to the marriage faction. It is not possible to marry several of the people in the game, such as Ulfric Stormcloak.
Trying to breakup with partners is impossible without the console commands. Searching for help "breakup" 4 will bring up dialogue and quests that show reference to what most likely was the original intention of breaking up with a spouse.
The relationshipbreakup quest can be used.Use the console to enter these commands:
(This is just formality to reset the "marriage" quest.) The above will prevent the Dragonborn from having to kill their spouse, although they will comment on how much even the thought of them makes their blood boil. Untested, but possibly setrelationshiprank player 4 can fix this.
This section contains bugs related to Marriage. Before adding a bug to this list, consider the following: